One of my part time jobs is working as Instructor in a College Department. As lazy as i am, my favorite question is "WHY" to every student grilled during recitation. I guess, that habit of mine was unintentionally brought in our home, as i always asked my daughter " why" everytime she said "NO".
One time, i told her to take a bath, but she was in her" not to bothered" mood that she crisply said "NO" . But since i don't want to tolerate her mood, i grabbed her and brought to the bed and started undressing her. But she cried hardly, pounded her little fist to the bed and loudly asked me"WHY", "WHY". At first,i thought it was a funny sight, but i saw hatred and unexplainable feelings to her eyes, that i literally stopped and went out from room, away from her.
After that incident, it became familiar word for her the word "why". everytime i opposed her idea, she would always asked 'WHY, ME" or simply "WHY".
We may not taught her the word 'WHY" but i guess, she learned it my herself. to ask "why" when something needs to be answer.
Most of the time, i do not want to answer her questions, but i chose to answer it. as i learned that answering 'I DONT KNOW" means teaching the child to become "stupid " showing fear means teaching them to be coward and saying "im tired" means teaching them to become lazy.
Being a mother sometimes gives us the privilege of being" knowledgeable" but i realized that " why" is the hardest question that must always be answered and in the same way that every mother should be happy when their toodler starts asking "WHY".
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